Infertility Affects Everyone: Where to Find the Support You Need

Infertility And Associated Health Conditions

In life we run into one problem after the next, and for the most part we pick up the pieces and we move on. But sometimes a problem hits us so hard we don’t know where to turn. I’d like to talk to you about one of those life situations in this article, infertility. Having a child is hard enough, but struggling to have a child for months or even years just to find out that you or your partner is unable to produce an offspring is harder. And that’s exactly the nightmare 10-15% of the population deals with as a reality. Infertility is cruel and unbiased and can affect anyone, so how do you deal with something like this, what can you do?

What is infertility

The first step in understanding a solution to any problem is first understanding the problem. There are symptoms to being infertile, the first and foremost being that you are unable to conceive a child. Sometimes a man will show signs of hormonal changes as well as changes in their hair growth which could indicate infertility. Women have also been known to have irregular or even no menstrual cycle whatsoever. The good news is that even if you are diagnosed with this issue, it is still possible that you and your partner will conceive, even if you have not undergone any form of treatment.

Seek out a physician

It is important to see a doctor that can prescribe you Clomid medication but usually only if you have been unsuccessful in conceiving for over a year actively. If you are a woman, make sure you talk to your doctor if you’re over the age of 40 or if you are over the age of 35 and you’ve been trying to get pregnant for six or more months. Also be aware of your regular menstrual cycle, if it is irregular or causes you a greater than usual amount of pain this could also be a sign. If you are a man there are different signs of course including what you believe may be any issue with the amount of sperm you can produce or any other noticeable issues.

If you have a history of family fertility issues or if you yourself have a history of issues with your prostate, testicles, or your sexual relations in general and if your testicles are small or there is noticeable swelling within your scrotum, these are all signs that can indicate infertility in men.

What causes infertility

Now that you know what to look for when it comes to identifying your symptoms it is also important to know what causes infertility in the first place. Now the issue of whose fault it is seems to be pretty even, both men and women are equally able to be infertile resulting which means it is pretty evenly split 50% between both genders or both parties are at fault in the relationship. Though it is even between the genders, obviously the actual causes of infertility vary between the two.

Infertility and cancer

For men previous experiences with certain types of cancer or the radiation treatments of cancer can cause problems with sperm production. In other cases even without cancer symptoms or radiation a males sperm count can still be low for other reasons  such as diabetes, undescended testicles, or even several different forms of STIs (chlamydia, gonorrhea, the mumps, or HIV). Women should also be aware if they have a history of cancers since the radiation and chemotherapy can cause fertility problems as well.

Female reproductive symptoms

There are also ovulation disorders that affect how a woman’s eggs will be released, so if you do speak to a doctor make sure to mention any known disorders out, if there are no known disorders make certain to get yourself checked out. Endometriosis, which is a condition in women where their endometrial tissue grows on the outside of their uterus can also affect the ovaries, as well as the uterus itself and the Fallopian tubes.


At the end of the day the best thing you can do if you are struggling with the process of conceiving I’d talk to your doctor. They can perform any number of necessary test to rule out possibilities or confirm them, and it is always better to know than to try forever and fail. Be sure to be safe, be happy, and be healthy always.

John Rogers

7 thoughts on “Infertility Affects Everyone: Where to Find the Support You Need

  1. Infertility runs in my family, on both sides. My paternal and maternal grandmothers both experienced fertility issues like miscarriages and problems conceiving. I am scared that I will also experience infertility. I feel lucky that we live in a time with lots of medical help for fertility issues, and options like adoption are awesome alternatives to natural birth. I think that I will be happy with whatever my future family ends up being, no matter how I get my children. I am scared but not paralyzed by fear when it comes to infertility. I think that I will be okay. I think infertility affects many men and women and families, and that no one should be embarrassed to talk about it with others. Opening up creates community and provides support for those that need it.

  2. I am transgender (female-to-male), and as part of my transition I was required to get a hysterectomy as a pre-requisite to another surgery that I needed to improve my quality of life. I was able to keep an ovary in the hopes that someday I might be able to go off testosterone and undergo egg harvesting, provided I ever have the funds to do so. Having biological children is something I find very important, being an only child, but as uncertain as my economic future is, I am coming to terms with the fact that adoption may be a more viable means of having kids with my partner. It’s not what I ever envisioned for myself, but I would rather be a father to my children than a mother, even if it means giving up something that has been ingrained in me as important my entire life. I am learning to see genetic relations as the trivial thing they are; what matters is who loves you, and DNA doesn’t make me love someone any more or less. It would make my parents sad for a time, I think, if I wasn’t able to father my own children, but in time I doubt it would weigh on their conscience any more than it would mine.

  3. I wouldn’t mind being infertile. I can go through some periods where I am kind of promiscuous, with regular testing of myself and my partners I can reduce the odds of HIV to a low number, especially factoring in prep. Then the biggest concerns would be pregnancy, and I hate condoms which does not help. When it comes to having children I think I would prefer to adopt anyways.

  4. Earlier this year me and my wife tried to get pregnant. thats when we found out that she was barren, infertile and unable to carry our child. it was devastating at first but we had options. after finding a surrogate mother to carry the child for us we are currently awaiting our first bundle of joy. i could not be happier

  5. My wife and I had been trying to have a child of our own for a year, with no success. I knew she was able to since her last trip to the gynecologist. It turns out it was me who was having the problems. I had a very low sperm count. I don’t know why, I guess I was just unlucky in that regard. But we’ll keep trying, since there’s so much fun in trying! Eventually it’ll work out and we’ll have a newborn baby of our own.

  6. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome, so infertility is an unfortunate part of that diagnosis. In order to conceive our children, I was on very rigorous hormone therapy for close to 2 years for each child. I also suffered a miscarriage during that time. Along with polycystic ovarian syndrome, I also suffer from intrauterine polyps and a tilted uterus, both of which make conception and carrying a child to full term nearly impossible. Both of my living children were born prematurely because of my tilted uterus. Infertility is a deeply personal issue as well. Phrases that are counter productive are common, and people don’t understand the hurt of words. Infertility is an invisible illness for most.

  7. My aunt could not have children because of cancer when she was in her 30’s. It wasn’t a big deal to her since she wasn’t planning on having kids anyway, but in my opinion it would have an effect on me because its taking away a natural part of life. Although saving all that money and spending it on myself would be nice!

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